When do you remember your boundaries?
It is easy to forget the boundaries you put up because you learned the hard way. its often easier to do your best for people you trust. Unfortunetly its not always a two way street.
Hey Dreamers,
Today Camille and I were asembling one of the larger rewards, one of the last two. its going well, but we had to stop. Some one I love needed help. THey called me because they were somewhere they didnt feel safe and needed someone they trusted to come get them. A task I am gratefull to fill actually.
The way I see it if someone needs help legitimately needs it, its my responsibility to help when and if I can. I have had to learn to keep a boundary on this request though. There are people who take advantage of those who are willing to help others. Even though I keep that boundary up there are moments where it doesnt matter. I once drove someone three hours to get coffee in another town with friends not because they needed help but because they were just trying to show off to others. I didnt know till afterwards I was being used.
I worked on something for 2 years for a project I believed in to end the same way feeling used. YOu learn things as a child that get hard coded. Being a person who likes to feel usefull and valuable to those they care about is a double edged sword and narcisist love that. They seek them. Few of those of us rasied by someone like that are immune to being in those types of false friendhsips. its only afterwards when we are thinking more clearly that we recall our own need for boundaries. Usually when a true friend reminds us we got sucker punched again.
I made progress on the new book I am still working on it despite my day job requiring 10 weeks of 6 day work weeks and 12 hour days. progress slowed but it didnt stop.
Next week ill update everyone on the new boook dates. I have a bit more to wrap up on filfillment. Untill then my dreamers and try not to forget the worst monsters are the ones who love it when we forget our boundaries.
Yours in forgetfullness
James Burton